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Johanna, I've been trying to keep quiet on this but it's been bothering me too long. When we asked you to come over to help us get stuff at Mom's, we were hoping you were just coming to take the lizard cage and dog cage. When you said you'd help clean, we thought you'd respect her boundaries when it came to where we were cleaning. When you decided you wanted the fish tank too, we helped you with that. But you didn't listen to Mom. She told us specifically not to clean the den, and that I was only allowed in there to take out the guitar amp. When you 'cleaned' in there, you threw out stuff Mom was planning on using, or stuff that Mom needed - she's been in there a few times since we were there, and she keeps finding more and more things missing. The day after we cleaned, she couldn't find her vacuum bags, which she really needs. (She ended up finding some in the trash.) Today, she went in there to look in her laptop case for her camera box, and even that was missing - now she can't use her camera because the cables and the charger are gone, as well as the software and instruction manual. It was all brand new, Mom got it for Christmas. (The laptop case was in a different place than where it usually was, too, and open and dumped on its end, from what Mom said.) What do you expect her to do, buy a new camera? She can't use the one she has! Also, when you went in front of the shelves in Mom's room, she didn't want us messing with that much either, but you went and cleaned it anyway, and took things that you wanted without asking, like Mom's collectible stuffed Cocker Spaniel (which is another thing she can't find). She knew where everything was back there, like her medicine, and you just disregarded her wishes and went and tore everything apart. She had her medicine organized in the bags they were in by date, so she knew which ones to use first, and not only did you mess that up, you didn't even let her know where her medicine was when you were done, so she called me early that morning, freaking out because she couldn't find her medicine and couldn't afford to replace it. She told you not to touch her medicine, and instead you dumped it out of its bags, threw out half of it, and didn't tell Mom where the rest was. You used us cleaning Mom's house as an excuse to take all sorts of things you wanted, and who cares what Mom says. We didn't appreciate being used, and Mom didn't appreciate you not listening to her and going against her wishes to 'clean' the den and behind door.

And on the topic of being used, I don't like how you only really call me or get in touch with me when you need someone to watch the boys. Mom told me what your big news was, and told me that you said you needed me to watch the kids. I have a life and a job, and I can't drop everything to go watch the kids when you need it. Nor will I make Bryan drop everything to drive me down there. He has a more demanding job than I do, and driving me 3 hours down and 3 hours back just to babysit the boys is not his idea of a relaxing weekend. You didn't even wish me happy birthday when you called me on my birthday, and that hurt. Michelle, who I hadn't talked to in 3 years, wished me a happy birthday when she found me on Facebook, and she's just our cousin. You're my sister, and you not wishing me a happy birthday, not even mentioning it, really hurt. You also didn't say happy birthday to Mom, or happy mother's day. But if you need something, you expect me to be there, to drop everything and run to you. I'm sorry, but I can't do it. I won't.

Mom is fed up with you, and I am too. Mom's house is not your personal shopping mall, and I am not your free babysitter. I'm sorry to have to dump everything out like this, but it's been bothering me for a few weeks now. Mom says to leave her alone, and to not come over - if you happen to have the camera stuff, please leave it in her mailbox.


p.s. And putting rat poison out for Levon to find? Come on, Jo, we're not stupid.

Date: 2010-05-16 10:01 pm (UTC)
moonbathe_skin: (moon)
From: [personal profile] moonbathe_skin
I'm sad to read this - whatever was she thinking doing all those things? I understand because I have difficult family members too.

Date: 2010-05-17 12:03 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] shadowwolf13
:( I'm sorry Hon ... sometimes people are just too far out there. I hope you guys can find most of the missing things.

Date: 2010-05-17 12:52 am (UTC)
alchemise: Stargate: season 1 Daniel (Default)
From: [personal profile] alchemise
Ouch, I'm sorry your sister is doing these things. :(

Date: 2010-05-17 02:13 am (UTC)
wyldbutterflies: (Nero - Dolled up)
From: [personal profile] wyldbutterflies
Having difficulty to deal with family ourselfs, I read you loud and clear here.

I am just sorry that you have a family member like that to deal with too.

Date: 2010-05-17 01:44 pm (UTC)
From: [personal profile] amethystfirefly
Wow. What's her damage?

-hugs- I'm sorry you have to deal with this shit. And kudos for calling her out on her shit.

It's all relative.

Date: 2010-05-20 07:58 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] ktalk
It's a sad fact that you can't pick your relatives, but from reading that, it sounds to me like you did all that you can do, short of banning her from the house completely.

I hope the situation improves soon.


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